A very clear example of selfishsness hidden in what we considered generosity.
Something we must definitely learn to overcome. "When people are selfish they aren’t happy. Selfishness leads to a sense of discontent, and yet people tend to be very selfish without realizing how it affects them. You can experience this at any time, especially when you are hungry. Suppose you get some apples and you have the opportunity to share them with a friend; you think it over for a while, and, sure, the intention to give is there all right, but you want to give the smaller one. To give the big one would be... well, such a shame. It’s hard to think straight. You tell them to go ahead and take one, but then you say, “Take this one!”... and give them the smaller apple! This is one form of selfishness that people usually don’t notice. Have you ever been like this? You really have to go against the grain to give. Even though you may really only want to give the smaller apple, you must force yourself to give away the bigger one. [...] Training the mind by going against the grain in this way requires self-discipline – you must know how to give and how to give up, not allowing selfishness to stick." -from "Living Dhamma" by Achaan Chah
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